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Christina

Zygote, do you think you'd have sought out an illegal abortion if a legal one that you perceived as safe hadn't been so available? (I'm not being a smartass; I really am wondering.)

Zygoe

Christina,
That is an excellent question and I really had to think about that. Ultimately I think I would have, but I would have waffled quite a bit more. Please keep in mind, my situation is no where near as dire and desperate as other women in a crisis pregnancy. When I was pregnant I realized how lucky I was that an abortion was truly a choice for me and not a light at the end of the tunnel as is for so many other women. Feeling even a tenth of the desperation that is out there made me much more understanding of our plight as a whole.

Christina

Can you understand that for those of us who came uncomfortably close to abortions, or who ended up having abortions we later realized we could have avoided, by far prefer that there be no easy way to fall into what we see as a trap?

To us, having abortion readily available is a way of abandoning women, just as, if I understand you correctly

Christina

Can you understand that for those of us who came uncomfortably close to abortions, or who ended up having abortions we later realized we could have avoided, by far prefer that there be no easy way to fall into what we see as a trap?

To us, having abortion readily available is a way of abandoning women, just as, if I understand you correctly, you see not having abortion available as abandoning them.

Are we understanding each other here?

Zygoe

I completely understand your thinking we just don’t agree. My question to you (and I am not trying to be a smartass either, I am genuinely curious) is why don’t you trust women to make their own decisions. If it is, as you say, a trap then isn’t it up to the individual to see it as such? Anecdotally, the 10 women I know in my life who have had an abortion are fine, well adjusted people who don’t regret their abortion. They, and I, don’t feel like we feel into a trap. We ended up in a situation, did what we felt was best and continued on with our lives.

Jivin J

Hi Zygote,
We don't "trust women to make their own decisions" because a decision to intentionally end the life of an innocent human being is not a decision any human being should make.

What's interesting in this post to me is how your tone/language has changed thru the history of your blog. Before you had the abortion and even after your abortion, you used the word "baby" to describe the child that was in your womb. You even had a name for her. Now you seem mad and think pro-choicers should get riled up.

Why the change? You almost sound like a NARAL e-mail now when before you had a true thoughtfulness/openness to you.

You also note here in the comments that abortion was "truly a choice" for you when in April you claimed that "I felt and feel like there wasn’t another viable option." That certainly doesn't sound like you thought it was "truly a choice" in April.

In July, you quoted Julie and said that her thoughts of being "trapped and scared" were just how you felt at the time.

"Trapped and scared? Oh, hell yes. Violated? Most definitely. Violated by the presence of a heartbeat? Not all. I felt violated by everything, but the heartbeat." Do you remember writing that? That doesn't sound like "truly a choice" to me. You felt like it was a trap then but not now?

You even wished in a way that abortion hadn't been legal so you wouldn't have to choose abortion.

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